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# Should I Send This

Sent is forever. The angry reply, the 2am overshare, the passive-aggressive "per my last email" — they feel right in the moment and wrong an hour later. This is the pause between writing and sending: it reads how your message will actually land for the person receiving it, flags what's emotion-driven or misreadable, checks whether now is even the right time to send, and offers a calmer version — so you send the message you'd stand behind tomorrow.

## What This Skill Produces

- **The recipient's-eye read** — how the message will likely land for *them*, not how it feels to you
- **The risk flags** — the parts that could be misread, the emotion leaking through, the thing you'll regret, the overshare
- **The timing check** — whether to send now, wait, or not send at all (some messages are better not sent)
- **A calmer rewrite** — if it needs one, a version that gets your point across without the damage
- **The verdict** — send as-is / send the rewrite / wait / don't send

## Required Inputs

Ask for these if not provided:
- **The message** — what you're about to send (paste it)
- **The recipient & relationship** — who's getting it and your dynamic
- **Your state** — calm, angry, hurt, anxious (be honest — it changes everything)
- **What you want to achieve** — the actual goal of the message

## Framework: Read It As Them, Then Decide

1. **Read it from the recipient's side.** How will *they* receive it — the tone they'll hear, not the one you mean? This is where regret hides.
2. **Spot the emotion leak.** Flag what's being sent from anger, hurt, or anxiety — those parts are usually the regrettable ones.
3. **Find the misreads and overshares.** The lines that could be taken wrong, and anything you're sharing that you can't unshare.
4. **Check the timing.** Sometimes the message is fine but *now* isn't — hot moments especially warrant a wait. And some messages are better never sent.
5. **Offer the calm version and a verdict.** If it needs softening, rewrite it to keep the point and lose the damage — then a clear send / rewrite / wait / don't-send call.

## Output Format

### The message: [what you want to send] · to [recipient] · you feel [state]

**How it'll land for them:** [recipient's-eye read].
**Risk flags:** [emotion leaking / misreadable lines / regret / overshare].
**Timing:** [send now / wait — you're hot / this may be better unsent].
**Calmer version (if needed):**
> [rewrite that keeps the point, loses the damage]
**Verdict:** [send as-is / send the rewrite / wait an hour / don't send].

## Quality Checks
- [ ] Reads the message from the recipient's perspective
- [ ] Flags the emotion-driven and regrettable parts
- [ ] Catches misreadable lines and overshares
- [ ] Checks whether now is the right time (or whether to send at all)
- [ ] Offers a calmer rewrite when warranted
- [ ] Gives a clear verdict

## Anti-Patterns
- **Judging by how it feels to send** rather than to receive.
- **Rubber-stamping** a clearly hot message.
- **Rewriting away the point** along with the heat.
- **Ignoring timing** — sometimes the fix is just "wait."
- **Never flagging "don't send"** when that's the answer.

## Example Trigger Phrases
- "Should I send this angry reply to my boss? Check it first."
- "Is this text okay to send, or will I regret it?"
- "Read this before I hit send on it."
- "I'm hurt and about to send this — should I?"
- "Gut-check this message for me."